Regardless what we may think, parents are responsible for many of their children’s habits. When they are young, they observe us and copy everything we do or say. Therefore, it is better if we give them a good example, however difficult this can be at times. If I speak badly to my wife, I am sure that my son will do the same with his.
It is therefore essential to be respectful in every moment. In the same way, we have the manners at the table. It is funny to watch our “little mirrors”. They do not miss a single detail: they see if we put our elbows on the table, if we drink from the bottle or if we lick the blade of the knife.
How many times have we heard our children say “but you do it too!”. So be careful, even if they, like us, do not have to be perfect. It is also good idea to involve our elders in our every day life.
Sometimes we forget the wisdom of those who have lived many years and have seen many more things than ourselves. Hurray for the grannies! They have a special relationship with their grandchildren. When the mother has to educate, the grandmother can be more permissive as she has another function: she has to be calm, to relax, to love and to laugh.
When the father is tired and stressed because of his job and of his fight against the world, the grandfather can wink an eye at his grandson so that he will not take everything so seriously. It is very easy for the children to love and respect the elders, they only need to be given a chance.